Having My Own Family Changed Me.
AS A PARENT AND THERAPIST, THE CHALLENGES OF PARENTING INSPIRED ME TO LEARN ABOUT FAMILY DYNAMICS AND HOW RELATIONSHIPS ARE FORMED.
When I had my baby I felt my whole identity shift.
My family lived in London so I was feeling alone and lacking confidence in my new role as a mother, all of which contributed to the onset of postpartum depression. I wanted to do the best job I could as a mom but felt unsure of where to start.
As a therapist, I knew I wanted to parent in a more conscious way than I had learned growing up, but I needed extra resources to do so. It was at this time that I began my training in mindful parenting and parent education. I learned the tools that really helped pull me out of a desperate and stuck place into a place of confidence and forward motion. My training was invaluable to me and allowed me to feel good about my communication with my daughter.
My experience made me realize that as a therapist, I was in a unique position to help others do the same, which is when I began to incorporate this parenting model into my therapy practice. After years of leading Mindful Parenting groups and training interns in the model, I have been blessed to see the impact it has on those who embrace it. Those who do are able to build a solid foundation of communication based on respect, understanding and self-reflection that all contribute to the secure attachment bond between parent and child. Parenting can be a rollercoaster but with the right tools and confidence in your approach it can be a ride that you enjoy and embrace for years to come.
If you are anything like me, your parents raised you the best they knew how and you turned out fine, but you know you would like to try something different with your kids. You have dreams of what you want your family to look like, but maybe you are not sure how to make it happen.
You have an opportunity to break the unhealthy cycles and patterns of your past for the future generations and I can provide the bridge for you to get there with your child through conscious and mindful parenting.
Annabelle Safinia is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist with training in Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy (EFT) and Mindful Parenting along with expertise in teaching Mindful Parenting to families during the most formative years of their children’s lives. In addition Annabelle is also a Certified Maternal Mental Health Professional, Speaker and Parent Educator.
She has helped bring peace, cooperation and happiness to hundreds of families through her private sessions, group workshops and speaking engagements. Annabelle makes learning fun, easy to understand, and doable for busy parents and families ready to grow.
Her pioneering work integrates a psychodynamic approach with brain science, mindful parenting and depth psychology. Annabelle’s unique process helps you shift from a traditional authoritarian view of parenting and relationships to a conscious relational view. By looking beneath the surface of communication Annabelle helps you understand and unravel unconscious patterns and habits that have formed. She provides tools and training so you can become the kind of parent or partner you most want to be.
Raised in the UK, Annabelle grew up in a dual culture Persian/English household. She received her Masters in Counseling Psychology from Pacifica Graduate Institute, Santa Barbara and completed her traineeship at the esteemed Maple Counseling Center in Beverly Hills. Annabelle spent subsequent years at the Well Baby Center in Mar Vista facilitating Mindful Parenting Groups for parents and children and leading the intern group-training program.
Annabelle works with clients in private practice in West LA, Silverlake and internationally, online. She also runs several groups in the Infant and Toddler Program at the esteemed Cassidy Preschool in Santa Monica. She offers services in English (with a British accent!) and Farsi. When she’s not transforming lives, she enjoys spending time with family and friends, raising her daughter, keeping fit, and indulging in the occasional silent meditation retreat.
about Conscious Parenting...
Brain science proves that the key time for brain shaping our little ones is zero to 5 years old. It’s important to establish healthy communication skills, expectations, and relationship patterns early on so our children our armed with tools to get them through life’s challenges to help them explore the full possibilities of their life and who they most want to be.
Zero to Five is the time to be most conscious and mindful to help develop and nurture the compassionate, caring, confident skills that aren’t taught in school. During this magical age range, our children are mostly relying on us to make sense of their world and their emotional needs.
The tricky part is we have learned to respond to life from our memories and emotional experiences, many rooted in our own childhood development, which makes it challenging to not burden our children with our own unresolved, and many times unconscious childhood issues! Nurturing early relationships provides the foundation for their self-concept, outlook, and lifelong relationship qualities.
I can help you identify core issues quickly so we can elevate your parenting skills to support connected, caring, confident beings as a part of your legacy in the world.